How many times do you find yourself complaining each day?

Some people start their day, complaining about having to get out of bed, finding something about themselves to criticize, and then proceed to curse traffic on their way to work. Imagine that these people get to work, complain about their workload expectations, complain about their customers and complain about their co-workers. Don’t even get me started on their complaints about world events.

On the way home there may be more complaints about traffic, negative rumination about their day, and grumbling about having to do it all over the next day. Once they are home there may be complaints about household responsibilities, complaints about time restraints, and complaints about their family members. For some people, all of this complaining may lead to conflicted relationships, depressive mood, anxious mood, and/or physical problems experienced within their body.

I wonder, why looking for the negative has become such a normal part of human behavior? Why is it that our minds fixate on things that are not going well and have the tendency to ignore the good? Many times people are conditioned by external factors like the media. For example; when people watch the news, they expose themselves to crime, conflict, corruption, and chaos. We live in a society that has been taught to look for the bad.

 I invite you to challenge yourself to be mindful of looking for the good each day. Start each morning with a positive outlook on how you desire to live your life. Set positive intentions for every situation that you will encounter. When you notice your mind gravitating toward negativity, send positive energy to that situation and refocus on the things that are good in your life. Imagine yourself spending each evening reminiscing about all of the amazing things that happened that day.

I recently began reading the book Enjoy Every Sandwich by Lee Lipsenthal, M.D. The book is about lessons on how to appreciate life. Lessons that are learned from both expected and unexpected teachers. It demonstrates how some disastrous situations can turn out to be blessings in disguise. Blessings come in many different packages, some people may be reminded to seek the good after reading literature that awakens something inside of them, others may be reminded when they view a sunset that warms their heart, and some may be reminded when they experience a major life changing event that rocks their world.

My intention for those of you reading this blog, is that you continuously be blessed by seeking the good in anything and everything that surrounds you no matter how big or how small. 

Cynthia Jauregui, PsyD, LMFT